How to Know If It’s Time to See a Therapist

Understanding the signs, reducing stigma, and taking the first step towards healing

Most of us move through difficult seasons—work stress, relationship changes, health challenges, burnout. We might vent to a friend, take a day off, or try to push through. But when the weight lingers or begins to affect daily life, it may be time to talk to a therapist.

You do not need a diagnosis or a crisis to benefit from therapy. It supports anyone who wants to understand themselves better, improve relationships, build coping skills, or feel more balanced and fulfilled. Think of therapy like the gym: not only for when things are “out of shape,” but a regular practice that maintains mental health.

1. You feel stuck, lost, or overwhelmed

Feeling constantly stressed or as if you are spinning your wheels can be a sign to seek support.

  • Low motivation, foggy focus, or decision paralysis

  • A sense that “something is wrong,” without knowing what
    Therapists help you organise your thoughts, gain clarity, and create realistic next steps.

2. Your emotions are difficult to manage

If anxiety, anger, tearfulness, or mood swings are affecting work or relationships, pay attention.

  • Persistent hopelessness, guilt, or emptiness

  • Irritability or anger that feels out of control
    These may signal underlying concerns such as anxiety, depression, or unresolved trauma—issues therapy can address safely and effectively.

3. You’re withdrawing or feel disconnected

Stepping back from people and activities you once enjoyed is a common, often overlooked, sign of depression or burnout.

  • Avoiding social plans or cancelling frequently

  • Losing interest in hobbies

  • Feeling numb or detached
    Therapy can help you reconnect with yourself and rebuild meaningful bonds.

4. You’re struggling in your relationships

Relationships often mirror our inner world.

  • Repeating the same patterns

  • Feeling misunderstood, resentful, or distant

  • Difficulty setting boundaries or communicating
    Therapy offers a non-judgemental space to explore dynamics and practise healthier ways of relating.

5. Physical changes are affecting daily life

Mental health shows up in the body. If the following persist, consider therapy:

  • Changes in appetite or weight

  • Sleep difficulties or oversleeping

  • Chronic fatigue or unexplained physical symptoms (e.g., headaches, stomach issues)
    Your body may be telling you something needs care.

6. You’ve experienced trauma—recently or in the past

Trauma can stem from a single event or ongoing experiences such as neglect or relational harm. Signs include:

  • Flashbacks, nightmares, or intrusive thoughts

  • Avoidance of certain places, people, or feelings

  • Feeling on edge or emotionally numb
    Therapy provides a paced, supportive environment to process and heal.

7. You want to grow and understand yourself better

Many people start therapy from curiosity rather than crisis. You might be asking:

  • Why do I react this way in certain situations?

  • What holds me back from my goals?

  • How can I feel more confident, content, and in control?
    Therapy is a powerful route to self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and purposeful change.

8. Friends and family aren’t enough right now

Support networks are vital, but they are not a substitute for professional care.

  • Leaning heavily on loved ones for emotional support

  • Feeling misunderstood or worried about burdening others
    A trained therapist offers tools, perspective, and neutrality that friends and family cannot always provide.

Ready to talk? We’re here to help

At Wholeness & Wellness Counselling Services, our compassionate, licensed therapists offer a safe, confidential, and non-judgemental space to explore whatever you are facing. We work with children, teens, adults, and couples—at your pace, and with culturally sensitive, trauma-responsive care.

Next step: Book a brief consultation to see if we’re a good fit.


Taking the first step

Admitting you might need help is not weakness—it is self-awareness and courage. Whether you are noticing mental health symptoms, navigating life changes, or simply seeking growth, therapy can be life-changing.

If you are in immediate danger or thinking about harming yourself or someone else, contact local emergency services right away.
This article is for information only and is not a substitute for personalised medical or mental health advice.

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